You know more and more I am disliking people who tell me what my kids can watch, eat, play, and wear. Who the hell do they think they are... really!!.......... They act like a mafia crew if you should buy your child an x- rated video game or take them to a movie that might have sex and violence. I mean don`t think for a minute kids are stupid. If they don`t view or play it at home they will view or play it at someone else’s home. Like Mine.
Let`s talk about the sex for a second. I am not talking porn here, that`s a whole other conversation for later. I am talking about the scene where the guy and girl kiss, start taking off some cloths and fall into bed with the assumption of having sex till they cut to the morning after shot. You know fake sex. Come one people it is fake sex it takes less time in real life then what the movies portray. Just do not get me wrong, I am not saying or even agreeing that children should be watching porn. That is just wrong on so many levels that I wouldn`t even know where to begin. Again kids are not stupid. They know that the stork does not bring babies, and if they don`t well as a parent you really need to get over your shyness and talk to them because otherwise when they come to you and say I am pregnant you can`t get mad cause it wasn`t their decision it was the STORKS! Damn Stork`s got me 3x`s before I realized who my husband really was.
Then there is the violence on the TV news. I mean the violence there is at least real. You don`t see reporters taking fake blood, splattering it all over someone`s body, while they set up mass destruction in the back ground so a report can tell us about a war in another country. “No, those are real dead people that you are watching on TV, my son”. “No, they will not get another 10 lives to try that again like your “Gears of War 2” character does if you save the game and die”. The evening news is real violence. It shows humanity at its finest. Yet growing up I hated the news and I remember my parents telling me that “watching the news keeps me informed of the world around me”.., Riiiiiight, informed, like I wanted to be informed that real people actually kill other people over the stupidest things. No fake blood, no getting shot 10 times and taking a potion to mend your health, no running from monsters and escaping. No driving a car into a wall and walking away from it. Oh you know what I mean. Humans die in real life... Video game characters come back for revenge.
However, whether you believe in allowing your kids to watch rating 18+, PG 14, Mature, PG 13 or G shows, movies, or video games, or not, do you really think that others have the right to tell you whether you can or cannot. You’re the parent, if you actually taught your kid(s) right from wrong then they should know the difference between what violence they see on the TV news vs. the Violence they watch in movies or play on video games.
My son was 4 when he first started to play a on line game called “Counter Strike” for those who do know of this game it is terrorists vs. counter terrorists, a game where you stop a bomb going off and save the day. Play either terrorists or counter terrorists and you’re always a hero either setting the bomb or defusing it. Anyways, my 4 year old played it and he is now 10 and still plays this game. His first words were “go go go” sitting in the back of our minivan playing finger gun with all the passing cars (tinted windows are a mother`s best friend in cases like this). Is he violent? Hell ya! he is violent but only in game.
When he is not gaming he is the sweetest kid around. He would tell me every day I was beautiful even if my eyes were swollen, hair so matted I would have been better off shaving it all off then actually combing it out, dried saliva on my cheek and wearing oversized flannel nighties. He sings to himself all the time (even now he still does it), sweetest voice. He helps his friends at school with work if they don`t understand, he walks home a little girl every day, right to her day care door because he worries she might get picked on by older kids. He does this even though he is the smallest 10 year old in his class, he does this even though he knows there isn`t much he could do if someone wanted to hurt his little friend. He even does it knowing if he had to defend himself he would end up getting his ass kicked. Yet he does it all the same. He loves all animals great and small and will take a spider outside and set it free if he finds one in the house, instead of squashing it.
Why does he do this? He does it because we raised him to have respect for all life and all people. All our kids are raised the same way and will stand up for others even in the event it might get them an ass kicking by a bully. He also does this because we talk to him, I don`t mean talking to him as in asking him to clean his room, I mean really talk to him, Find out how his day went, if he talks to us about what someone else does in school and that they got in trouble for we ask him things like “how did it make you feel” or “do you think the person was in the right for doing what they that got them in trouble.” We question, We support , but most of all we listen (even if it was just with one ear). It not like he only tells us what bad things others do he also will be honest and tell us about what bad things he does to and I have had the principal say he is honest and never tries to blame anyone else for what his part in the situation was. Not like we have gotten those calls a lot either, 2x since Kindergarten to present.
I can be thankful for small favours that is isn`t a rowdy kid like my oldest one was ... OMG, I was at the school more often then I was home. The school should have given me my own office with my own desk and name tag for all the times I had was called in over my oldest son`s fighting in school, then he hit grade 6 and all the fighting stopped. Just stopped, not sure where it went but it left.
My kids are not perfect ( but neither am I and but they don't know that) let me make that 100% clear. They were devil spawn in disguises. They have been feeding on my soul for years but I always talked to them (yelled begged, cried and bribed too) till they fully understood I meant business. They are not perfect to this day but they are still learning and I am still teaching. At least until I have nervous breakdown and they have to change my diaper because I am in a state of constant denial, in which they cannot bring me out of or until they have kids of their own and begin to teach their own kids what is right ( this last scenario is what I am rooting for personally, as the thought of wetting myself and having them look after me scares me more than being a grandmother), I will continue to teach them what is right and they will continue to learn. It may kill us all in the end.
Letting our kids watch violence and such on TV doesn`t make them violent, what makes them violent is not teaching our kids the difference between real and fake. You can`t be the parent if your kid is raised by someone else who morale’s are different than yours, you can`t be an effective parent if you let the TV raise them. You especially can not be a parent if you`re your kids friend. Want to be a friend to a kid then be a friend to their friends. Joke laugh, give advice but sound as if it`s their idea when they make the right choice, but know that their actions don`t reflect upon you but your kids actions do. I am not saying tell your kids friends to do things that are wrong but you don`t have to drill it into their heads like you do with your own kids. They have parents and that is their job not yours. It like grandparents giving a child candy before supper when the parent said they couldn`t have any earlier. The grandparent are completely unaffected that the child will no longer eat his or her dinner, but they got to be the best person alive at the moment the candy was handed over.
Sit down and watch a violent or scary movie (if your kid can handle it, not all kids can and you’re the best judge of your own kid) explain to them at every possible scene that it is not real and ask questions like "ya, think if ya got shot 10 times you could get up and kick butt” or "Do you really think all that blood is real" comment like ... "ya right! That was sooooo fake, did ya see their eyes move" or "gawd, did ya see how Michael Myers was run over by a car and yet he still got up, is that fake or what?"
Listen to your kids more, don`t always judge. Beware of their friends but don`t ban them from the friends you don`t like, know who and where they go. Don`t let them use the term “peer pressure”, make them accountable for their actions cause let`s face it, we won`t actually do something we don`t really want to do in the first place deep down inside. “Peer pressure” is a cop out and my kids know never to tell me that such and such told them to do it, because I, myself have tested the whole peer pressure excuse on them all the time to eat their damn veggies and they still refuse. So in my house Peer pressure is a fancy word for doing something they know was wrong, only they chose the wrong version and now they are grounded without parole. Don`t ever let them off easy and say things like; “well next time maybe you will know better” cause if they really liked it they won`t care and just do it again. Remind them in a nice way to use the brain that your seed gave them while they were forming inside you. Make sure they understand exactly what will happen to them the next time they do something like that again. An Eye for an Eye. Gawd if only that statement was true... an eye for an eye ... So they kill your fish, you kill their gerbil... your new shirt cut into pieces cause the fabric was soft and they wanted to use it to build a bed for the cat means their shirts will now be cut into pieces for you to use as cleaning rags around the house... yep the eye for an eye theory really doesn`t work in the real world. It just ends up making us look like animal killers or costs us money to replace clothing. But you can take away the cell phone, video games and MSN chat. Leave them with what they came into the world with; NOTHING. At least for a short time anyways.
Nothing worse than a kid who cannot talk to their parents about things without being told “don’t be stupid.” Now I am also not saying that kids don`t have stupid ideas, we all know that strapping a cape on and standing on the roof, ready to see how high you can fly is not really showing the world your intelligence level. At least that is what the kids told me when I tried it last summer. And yes, you can hear me say “ OMG! That is the stupidest thing you have ever said since the last stupid thing you said” but they also know I am not calling them stupid; I am calling the idea stupid. If your open with your kids they will learn from you, talk to you, and even be able to tell you things like... “I swear if that bully does not stop picking on me I am going to go postal”. You may be shocked but at least you can do something before it becomes another school shooting in the papers. Just know while you’re sitting there with a bottle of vodka in your hand, after your kids says something like that to you, that they trusted you enough to bring their problems to you before they got to their breaking point. Even adults have a breaking point, why shouldn`t our kids.
All I am saying is I really hate it seeing everything rated.., As a parent, if the front of a CD shows me something that would make me look under my bed for the next week, I have the right to decide if my kid should watch it or not and no one else should have influence over that. If I go to buy a video game for my kids to play, in which has them killing other players in a GAME. It is my right as a parent to decide if this game is really a game I want them to play. It is not the right of some woman or man in my country or another country, who has never had kids or has kids but who chooses to have them raised by a nanny, that has the right to tell me I should not be buying a game that is rated above my child`s current age at the time of the purchase. If it was then I want child support from those people starting from child birth to present day.
It works both ways too. So don`t ever ask me or anyone else if I or they recommend your kid watching or playing something because the only answer you`ll get out of me on that is your the parent do what you feel and know is right for your child. Didn`t your parent ever teach you right from wrong? I thought so.
"...I won't let it happen. I won't... I won't let this world exist without me!"
Friday, February 27, 2009
Thursday, February 26, 2009
National Geographic: Oil sands in Alberta
In March of 2009 an article is going to be released in the National Geographic magazine. This article is focused on the oil sands in Fort McMurray, Alberta.
Let me explain. This article isn’t in support of the oil sands, it isn’t suppose to show the work the oil sands is doing in a good light, this article is purely to show sludge-covered tailing ponds and the sprawling oilfields. In essence it is to tell a story of companies who suck out all the natural resources of the land and give nothing back.
Our Government is calling this article “Fair.” Fair??.... Screw that...Fair is showing both the good and the bad. If that is not the correct term then all dictionaries should be changed immediately. It’s just a piece that tells one side, a bad under your bed, lights turned off scarey dark side.The kind you tell your kids if you want them to stay in bed and not ask for one more damn glass of water. It says nothing about how the oil sands has created many jobs for not only people in our country, Canada but all over the world, and Newfoundland. The oil sands have given back by helping pay off Alberta’s great debt.
They are not just taking, but as they take, they are shifting back the washed sand, planting new trees,and giving the land a cleansing. Let’s face it, bush (and not George) that grows wildly and freely only ends up burned by hot weather and natural lightening (as apposed to campers who forget to put out their camp fires when they leave the area). Fires destroy more land then what the oil sands is doing. Just look at what BC has gone through due to fires.
The oil sands are working to restore the land which 30 years ago no company would have done what they have done for a community, town, city, province, or country. 30 years ago it would have been laughable if you said that an oil company was working with environmentalists in preserving the land that they sucked out natural resources from. Today we have companies doing just that, yet tree huggers are still coming out of the wood work screaming murder like they had been touched sexual by a moose.
Come off it. I don’t see articles on the “good” things the oil sands are doing. Oh they are there, but used only as bird cage paper. Good doesn't mean shit. We only get interested when it means someone or something is causeing great mayham over, acually who cares over what it is as long as it's aweful and we can shake our heads and yell at the top of our lungs will we read about it. Search Google about the oil sands in Alberta and it's site after site on how the oil sands are the "most destructive projects on earth". I see they have not met my kids then.
Now do not even think for a second (cause thinking can be painful to some) that I do not believe in nature and in preserving our forests and our wildlife. I am completely on board for preserving all these things. I ride the boat of conservation.(they serve booze) I love wildlife (even if they would like to see me dead) and believe in making sure animals are not extinct (like the wolly mammoth).
I believe forests play an important role in our environment (and not just a place to urinate when you have to go now, not in 50 miles).
I am however not on board when it comes to just bashing companies that are working to not only take resources but give back to its community and it’s country.
The oil sand not only provides jobs, but they donate money to different charities, hospitals, and government funded services, this includes education.
Now Obama, yes, the United States's new President is trying to put forth a Carbon Capture and storage solution, sounds pricey, how much is in your wallet?, in which he is on the case of the Tar Sands... hmmmm wonder why .. Did the USA run out of all the oil they "got" from the Middle East. So now what let’s go "barrow" Canada oil... or at the very least make a profit from Canada's oil. About 75 percent of Canada's oil sands output are shipped to the U.S. market, and American refineries in the Midwest and Gulf Coast are being reconfigured to handle those supplies. Not enough I assume for Obama. Doesn’t this president have more to worry about in his own country.... Like Health care for the millions of people without it, jobs for the millions who live in far worse poverty then even our own poverty stricken folks in Canada and His country’s reputation of taking what they want in brutal ways. Let’s not even mention how the USA government works for their people to help them achieve the fundamentals in life. Instead they make a suggestion for a new money grab which in turn will force Oil companies to pay a certain fee in advance for the emmissions they may produce. Could we not come up with a better plan? Are we really that uneducated that we think that by the oil companies paying money to distrubute emmissions into the air is the best solution. Ok I want to dump toxic waste into the river and I can if I pay $19.99 to the government... Wonder if I can get a quanity discount? hmmmm
But let’s not get into country vs country since this is about the Oil sands. I can just say that Obama must be pretty bored to pick only on the Tar sands in Canada while his own country suffers so much.
Back to the oil sands... As I write this right now a friend is working up north for the oil sands and they are building a add on, to one of the plants to reduce their emissions’. This will help make their work and our air stay cleaner. So are they not doing anything to help stop the erosion of your environment as some would like you to believe? Yes!, they are, but tree huggers only get attention if they find fault. Hey I want attention look at me running with the moose in Fort McMurray naked... woot me ... awww shut up get on topic and stop dreaming... The oil sands are trying to stay within the governments environmental guide lines. Shit happens, mistakes happen, but when they do, they correct them. They are very committed to them. They have people on Staff like environmentalist, biologists and more that help them ensure they are processing and following local laws and reclamation services. They are not just hired because they are pretty.(look at me being pretty, in the forest.... weeeeeeeee!) The oil sands are not the big evil corporations we use to hide from and who lived under our beds at night (that's called the boogie man/woman).
Yes, they are making money... huge money ( you ever see the size of those cheques they hold up for publicity shots), but who doesn`t want to make money, who doesn`t want to own their own home, drive a nice vehicle, pay for their kids education, have kids, go on vacation... gawd! Not me (I say with sarcasm) ........... blah.....
The oil sands are one of the safest places for people to work. These companies have one of the highest standards of safety in the world as well as setting new standards across the country. They pay top wages and provide some of the best working conditions for staff in the world. Syncrude is on the top 50 employers in Canada for woman in the working field to work for. Every company relies on the oil field whether is directly or indirectly. So the next time you start bashing the Oil sands just ask yourself, if the food you and your family are eating is something you would like to keep providing to them on a daily event. cause if you do then stop and think.
Love them or hate them the oil sands contribute billions of dollars in wages to people throughout Canada and the USA and to turn that tap off would make this recession (we are going through) far deeper then we could ever imagine.( I would have to switch my kraft macaronii to no name macaroni)
I could go on and on (and almost did),as there as so many issues that have been raised from this article that I should be addressing but let’s face it, this would turn into a book instead of my personal rant... So I stop, but if you have a comment please post it. I would love to spare with others on this topic till I get bored.
"...I won't let it happen. I won't... I won't let this world exist without me!"
Let me explain. This article isn’t in support of the oil sands, it isn’t suppose to show the work the oil sands is doing in a good light, this article is purely to show sludge-covered tailing ponds and the sprawling oilfields. In essence it is to tell a story of companies who suck out all the natural resources of the land and give nothing back.
Our Government is calling this article “Fair.” Fair??.... Screw that...Fair is showing both the good and the bad. If that is not the correct term then all dictionaries should be changed immediately. It’s just a piece that tells one side, a bad under your bed, lights turned off scarey dark side.The kind you tell your kids if you want them to stay in bed and not ask for one more damn glass of water. It says nothing about how the oil sands has created many jobs for not only people in our country, Canada but all over the world, and Newfoundland. The oil sands have given back by helping pay off Alberta’s great debt.
They are not just taking, but as they take, they are shifting back the washed sand, planting new trees,and giving the land a cleansing. Let’s face it, bush (and not George) that grows wildly and freely only ends up burned by hot weather and natural lightening (as apposed to campers who forget to put out their camp fires when they leave the area). Fires destroy more land then what the oil sands is doing. Just look at what BC has gone through due to fires.
The oil sands are working to restore the land which 30 years ago no company would have done what they have done for a community, town, city, province, or country. 30 years ago it would have been laughable if you said that an oil company was working with environmentalists in preserving the land that they sucked out natural resources from. Today we have companies doing just that, yet tree huggers are still coming out of the wood work screaming murder like they had been touched sexual by a moose.
Come off it. I don’t see articles on the “good” things the oil sands are doing. Oh they are there, but used only as bird cage paper. Good doesn't mean shit. We only get interested when it means someone or something is causeing great mayham over, acually who cares over what it is as long as it's aweful and we can shake our heads and yell at the top of our lungs will we read about it. Search Google about the oil sands in Alberta and it's site after site on how the oil sands are the "most destructive projects on earth". I see they have not met my kids then.
Now do not even think for a second (cause thinking can be painful to some) that I do not believe in nature and in preserving our forests and our wildlife. I am completely on board for preserving all these things. I ride the boat of conservation.(they serve booze) I love wildlife (even if they would like to see me dead) and believe in making sure animals are not extinct (like the wolly mammoth).
I believe forests play an important role in our environment (and not just a place to urinate when you have to go now, not in 50 miles).
I am however not on board when it comes to just bashing companies that are working to not only take resources but give back to its community and it’s country.
The oil sand not only provides jobs, but they donate money to different charities, hospitals, and government funded services, this includes education.
Now Obama, yes, the United States's new President is trying to put forth a Carbon Capture and storage solution, sounds pricey, how much is in your wallet?, in which he is on the case of the Tar Sands... hmmmm wonder why .. Did the USA run out of all the oil they "got" from the Middle East. So now what let’s go "barrow" Canada oil... or at the very least make a profit from Canada's oil. About 75 percent of Canada's oil sands output are shipped to the U.S. market, and American refineries in the Midwest and Gulf Coast are being reconfigured to handle those supplies. Not enough I assume for Obama. Doesn’t this president have more to worry about in his own country.... Like Health care for the millions of people without it, jobs for the millions who live in far worse poverty then even our own poverty stricken folks in Canada and His country’s reputation of taking what they want in brutal ways. Let’s not even mention how the USA government works for their people to help them achieve the fundamentals in life. Instead they make a suggestion for a new money grab which in turn will force Oil companies to pay a certain fee in advance for the emmissions they may produce. Could we not come up with a better plan? Are we really that uneducated that we think that by the oil companies paying money to distrubute emmissions into the air is the best solution. Ok I want to dump toxic waste into the river and I can if I pay $19.99 to the government... Wonder if I can get a quanity discount? hmmmm
But let’s not get into country vs country since this is about the Oil sands. I can just say that Obama must be pretty bored to pick only on the Tar sands in Canada while his own country suffers so much.
Back to the oil sands... As I write this right now a friend is working up north for the oil sands and they are building a add on, to one of the plants to reduce their emissions’. This will help make their work and our air stay cleaner. So are they not doing anything to help stop the erosion of your environment as some would like you to believe? Yes!, they are, but tree huggers only get attention if they find fault. Hey I want attention look at me running with the moose in Fort McMurray naked... woot me ... awww shut up get on topic and stop dreaming... The oil sands are trying to stay within the governments environmental guide lines. Shit happens, mistakes happen, but when they do, they correct them. They are very committed to them. They have people on Staff like environmentalist, biologists and more that help them ensure they are processing and following local laws and reclamation services. They are not just hired because they are pretty.(look at me being pretty, in the forest.... weeeeeeeee!) The oil sands are not the big evil corporations we use to hide from and who lived under our beds at night (that's called the boogie man/woman).
Yes, they are making money... huge money ( you ever see the size of those cheques they hold up for publicity shots), but who doesn`t want to make money, who doesn`t want to own their own home, drive a nice vehicle, pay for their kids education, have kids, go on vacation... gawd! Not me (I say with sarcasm) ........... blah.....
The oil sands are one of the safest places for people to work. These companies have one of the highest standards of safety in the world as well as setting new standards across the country. They pay top wages and provide some of the best working conditions for staff in the world. Syncrude is on the top 50 employers in Canada for woman in the working field to work for. Every company relies on the oil field whether is directly or indirectly. So the next time you start bashing the Oil sands just ask yourself, if the food you and your family are eating is something you would like to keep providing to them on a daily event. cause if you do then stop and think.
Love them or hate them the oil sands contribute billions of dollars in wages to people throughout Canada and the USA and to turn that tap off would make this recession (we are going through) far deeper then we could ever imagine.( I would have to switch my kraft macaronii to no name macaroni)
I could go on and on (and almost did),as there as so many issues that have been raised from this article that I should be addressing but let’s face it, this would turn into a book instead of my personal rant... So I stop, but if you have a comment please post it. I would love to spare with others on this topic till I get bored.
"...I won't let it happen. I won't... I won't let this world exist without me!"
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Some people on forums make me want to scream or at the least Rant
Ever joined a forum where you think everyone will be helpful and nice..? Ya right! Like there is such a thing in the first place. Over the years I have joined many forums from gaming forums to Pet Forums and not one of those so called helpful people were truly helpful. If anything they tend to be these overly opinionated folks, who think their shit don’t stink and everyone should bow down and kiss their ass cause hey! They know more than you. In reality they are people who no one listens to them off the forum so they really nail the people who ask questions on the forum they belong to. Give me a break! You know shit and if you knew shit well then I guess you would have a light in which glows over your head and you could heal by the touch of your hand.
I was part of a forum where someone posted about a guy who surrendered his parrot to an organization because the parrot’s medical bills cost was going to cost him something like $12,000.00 to amputate the birds’ wing. $12,000.00 to amputate a damn wing ... omfg! I would like to meet the person who would not have a problem coming up with that kind of money to get their birds’ wing amputated. But yet a moderator and owner of the web site posted that and I quote “We, as owners MUST consider the conquences of not being able to properly provide medical care for a bird. If you cannot afford vet bills, do not own a bird, dog, cat or anyother pet.......”
This statement alone is funny and ridicules. First the poster should use spell check and learn to use spacing. But what is really the funny thing is that this person is saying is that $12,000.00 is reasonable to amputate a birds’ wing. I mean come on who gets a pet and thinks they should have at least 10 grand in their account if they want to have a dog, cats, bird or any pet companion. If I we all were forced in society to have a large saving to own a pet or rescue a pet then my gawd, no one would have pets as companions except someone like Bill Gates. Even pet facilities are run off the charity of others.
So then the poster goes on to say, well let me just quote the post for you folks this way I don’t have to keep posting quotes in order to rant.
This poor Grey was brought into to this group (Name with held) , by a "SO CALLED" loving owner. Who has for the past 8 years neglicted it's health care. MONEY.... This some do who profess to love their birds.
This darling came into the facility with an E Collar, and the owner stating the vet said it was going to cost $12,000.00 to amputate the wing, etc. It has also plucked it's tail off and the nails are awful.
(video link removed)
Here is the update video on Buster's amputated wing.
"We, as owners MUST consider the conquences of not being able to properly provide medical care for a bird. If you cannot afford vet bills, do not own a bird, dog, cat or anyother pet......."
So reading this post, the poster first says that the owner of the bird neglected the birds’ health for 8 years... Wow! 8 years. The how can this poster even claim that the bird came into the facility with an E Collar and the owner stated the vet said it was going to cost $12,000.00 to amputate the birds’ wing? Didn’t the owner go to the vet if he knew what the cost was and the bird had a E Collar when it arrived at the facility in which was stated in the post the bird had on. Come on I watched the video too and the people in the video said clearly that the guy had went to the vets. He just could not afford the huge outrageous vet bill. The poster called this guy a “so called loving owner.” Didn’t he love his bird? Didn’t he have to make the hardest decision of his life to give up his companion because he alone could not afford the cost of the medical procedure? Did this guy not do the best he could for his bird to surrender him to an organization that let’s face it, could possibly afford the bill to help the bird. Instead of helping this man with the bill or with finding him a vet that would help his bird’s medical condition, they took the bird from him and this guy will never see his bird again. The guy could have just kept the bird ignored the problem and the bird could have died. I mean isn’t that what “so called loving owners” really do to their companions? Instead now he will never see his bird again. All because this loving owner did what was in the bird’s best interest by giving him up so the bird could get the medical treatment it needed.
Others posted in reply to this original poster.
Saying crap like and again I quote:
“I just cannot imagine a person, who is suppose to love any creature they take into their home, dumping it because of a medical cost. We would not do this to a human being”.
And
“I am glad that he got the care he deserves..
My mom worked for child services for 15 years and unfortunately people
do unspeakable things to innocent children and pets.”
Come on who are these people. First off if the bird needed its wing amputated or it would die then he didn’t just “dump the bird” he was working within a time frame so the bird received the treatment it needed before it did die. Second I agree people do, do unspeakable things to their children as well as to their pets but if this guy was doing the unspeakable to his bird then why would he just dump the bird at the facility. Like I said before, he could have just kept the bird and the bird could have died in the end.
People are hypocrites. We jump to conclusions and brow beat others because it’s easier to think of people as inhuman jerks then to stand in that person shoes and give them credit for doing what was bestat the time. The poster only commented on the fact that the guy surrendered his bird because of the vet costs. Never once saying the guy must have made the hardest decision of his entire life or that the guy must have really loved his bird enough to give the bird to someone who could afford the medical bill. Nope we bash, call names and make people feel like crap, because we are so much better. You think for one minute the original poster has that much money laying around for her bird’s medical bills? You think for one minute if she was faced with a decision like this guy was, she would have made a better choice? I don’t think so personally, but I don’t know either way. What I do know is people who criticize are either hiding their own faults or trying to make their selves look wonderful. In the end they just look like asses.
It is so easy for people to hide behind their computers and bash others but much harder face to face. Poster’s like this might actually have to see the human side to things and be kinder in their opinions towards others.
So the moral of this story is Make sure you have all the facts before shooting your fingers off in a forum. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Ask the obvious questions before making your mind up at the expense of others. But the most important thing I can teach is to not believe everything someone says cause there are always two sides of the story and you only heard one side. In this case one opinion from a poster who really believes they are a better human specimen than anyone else on this planet. They would have to be if they bash others.
So before anyone sends me comments like “well you’re bashing the poster for bashing the guy.” I will answer: Yes! I am. I do have a soft glow to my skin and over my head as well as I can heal others if I have the right medication to give them at the time. Seriously though, I don’t go out of my way to bash anyone who does the right thing for their pets. I also do not make assumptions without the full facts.
"...I won't let it happen. I won't... I won't let this world exist without me!"
I was part of a forum where someone posted about a guy who surrendered his parrot to an organization because the parrot’s medical bills cost was going to cost him something like $12,000.00 to amputate the birds’ wing. $12,000.00 to amputate a damn wing ... omfg! I would like to meet the person who would not have a problem coming up with that kind of money to get their birds’ wing amputated. But yet a moderator and owner of the web site posted that and I quote “We, as owners MUST consider the conquences of not being able to properly provide medical care for a bird. If you cannot afford vet bills, do not own a bird, dog, cat or anyother pet.......”
This statement alone is funny and ridicules. First the poster should use spell check and learn to use spacing. But what is really the funny thing is that this person is saying is that $12,000.00 is reasonable to amputate a birds’ wing. I mean come on who gets a pet and thinks they should have at least 10 grand in their account if they want to have a dog, cats, bird or any pet companion. If I we all were forced in society to have a large saving to own a pet or rescue a pet then my gawd, no one would have pets as companions except someone like Bill Gates. Even pet facilities are run off the charity of others.
So then the poster goes on to say, well let me just quote the post for you folks this way I don’t have to keep posting quotes in order to rant.
This poor Grey was brought into to this group (Name with held) , by a "SO CALLED" loving owner. Who has for the past 8 years neglicted it's health care. MONEY.... This some do who profess to love their birds.
This darling came into the facility with an E Collar, and the owner stating the vet said it was going to cost $12,000.00 to amputate the wing, etc. It has also plucked it's tail off and the nails are awful.
(video link removed)
Here is the update video on Buster's amputated wing.
"We, as owners MUST consider the conquences of not being able to properly provide medical care for a bird. If you cannot afford vet bills, do not own a bird, dog, cat or anyother pet......."
So reading this post, the poster first says that the owner of the bird neglected the birds’ health for 8 years... Wow! 8 years. The how can this poster even claim that the bird came into the facility with an E Collar and the owner stated the vet said it was going to cost $12,000.00 to amputate the birds’ wing? Didn’t the owner go to the vet if he knew what the cost was and the bird had a E Collar when it arrived at the facility in which was stated in the post the bird had on. Come on I watched the video too and the people in the video said clearly that the guy had went to the vets. He just could not afford the huge outrageous vet bill. The poster called this guy a “so called loving owner.” Didn’t he love his bird? Didn’t he have to make the hardest decision of his life to give up his companion because he alone could not afford the cost of the medical procedure? Did this guy not do the best he could for his bird to surrender him to an organization that let’s face it, could possibly afford the bill to help the bird. Instead of helping this man with the bill or with finding him a vet that would help his bird’s medical condition, they took the bird from him and this guy will never see his bird again. The guy could have just kept the bird ignored the problem and the bird could have died. I mean isn’t that what “so called loving owners” really do to their companions? Instead now he will never see his bird again. All because this loving owner did what was in the bird’s best interest by giving him up so the bird could get the medical treatment it needed.
Others posted in reply to this original poster.
Saying crap like and again I quote:
“I just cannot imagine a person, who is suppose to love any creature they take into their home, dumping it because of a medical cost. We would not do this to a human being”.
And
“I am glad that he got the care he deserves..
My mom worked for child services for 15 years and unfortunately people
do unspeakable things to innocent children and pets.”
Come on who are these people. First off if the bird needed its wing amputated or it would die then he didn’t just “dump the bird” he was working within a time frame so the bird received the treatment it needed before it did die. Second I agree people do, do unspeakable things to their children as well as to their pets but if this guy was doing the unspeakable to his bird then why would he just dump the bird at the facility. Like I said before, he could have just kept the bird and the bird could have died in the end.
People are hypocrites. We jump to conclusions and brow beat others because it’s easier to think of people as inhuman jerks then to stand in that person shoes and give them credit for doing what was bestat the time. The poster only commented on the fact that the guy surrendered his bird because of the vet costs. Never once saying the guy must have made the hardest decision of his entire life or that the guy must have really loved his bird enough to give the bird to someone who could afford the medical bill. Nope we bash, call names and make people feel like crap, because we are so much better. You think for one minute the original poster has that much money laying around for her bird’s medical bills? You think for one minute if she was faced with a decision like this guy was, she would have made a better choice? I don’t think so personally, but I don’t know either way. What I do know is people who criticize are either hiding their own faults or trying to make their selves look wonderful. In the end they just look like asses.
It is so easy for people to hide behind their computers and bash others but much harder face to face. Poster’s like this might actually have to see the human side to things and be kinder in their opinions towards others.
So the moral of this story is Make sure you have all the facts before shooting your fingers off in a forum. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Ask the obvious questions before making your mind up at the expense of others. But the most important thing I can teach is to not believe everything someone says cause there are always two sides of the story and you only heard one side. In this case one opinion from a poster who really believes they are a better human specimen than anyone else on this planet. They would have to be if they bash others.
So before anyone sends me comments like “well you’re bashing the poster for bashing the guy.” I will answer: Yes! I am. I do have a soft glow to my skin and over my head as well as I can heal others if I have the right medication to give them at the time. Seriously though, I don’t go out of my way to bash anyone who does the right thing for their pets. I also do not make assumptions without the full facts.
"...I won't let it happen. I won't... I won't let this world exist without me!"
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
2008 Hair Day Experience
So I finally did it.... I finally got Hair extensions... 18 of" lovely long locks of hair... After months of deciding if I would like it... I broke down and did it... woot me ...I have someone else’s hair now mingled with mine, a bit creepy, But makes me wonder if I can now commit crimes and they won’t be able to DNA my hair... Nah I have bad luck in general so I shouldn’t push it. So for now I will stay a law bidding Citizen.
Well anyways let me tell you my Hair Experience. So as you know I got hair extensions.... Again.... yaaaa Me... A couple of weeks later I was back at the shop for maintenance. (Wow sounds like I was taking my car in for a check up rather than just getting my hair done) As I sat in the chair as people in the mall walked by getting my hair done an Older woman came in. She was wearing a toque and was looking at all the wigs in the small shop. I watched her since I had nothing better to do while she asked about this wig and that wig. Each time looking nervous and scared, scare of what? I had no idea. After about 10 mins., she told the guy who was doing my hair that she would be back ,she was going to get her hair shaved off. SHAVED OFF... OMG... I thought... Did she not know that she didn’t have to shave off all her hair to wear a wig? I mean she did have short hair as it was from what I could see from what was sticking out from under her toque, but hey, each to their own as the saying goes.
After she left the guy who was doing my hair said quietly that she had the big C. The big C!! OMG she had Cancer. Well to me the big C means Cancer, at least which that is how everyone says Cancer when they really do not want to say Cancer out loud, in case that by just saying it would mean your next in line to get it. Like someone is just walking around with a bag of Cancer and if they hear you say it they pull out the cancer and hand it to you...like playing tag and your it.... We as any human who has any sort of conscience I said “OMG, that poor woman” and immediately felt bad and guilty. Guilt? What really did I have to feel guilty about? Not like I had the Cancer bag and handed it to her. But guilt is something strongly intertwined into my system... so yes! Guilt is what I felt.
So as I sat there drowning in my guilt the lady came back to the store. I couldn’t even look her in the eye. I felt so bad, I was afraid she could tell I felt sorry for her, like it was written on my forehead in a big black marker. People with Cancer don’t want strangers feeling sorry for them. They don’t want to be treated different. They have cancer not a third eye. I am sure even if they had a third eye and cancer they would not want anyone feeling bad for them. They have a hard enough time dealing with the drugs they may be taking, chemo, the fear that they will die from their cancer, the tests they have to go through daily, weekly or monthly. The last thing anyone wants to see is pity in the eyes of a stranger. So I sat there trying to pretend I didn’t know about her cancer from the guy who was doing my hair.
She hadn’t shaved off all her hair as she had told the guy doing my hair. From the sideways glances I was giving her I could clearly see she still had some peeking out from under her toque. But she was back in the shop looking at a few wigs. The other shop keeper asked her if she wanted to try any one. She did and after 15 mins., she had narrowed her choice down to 2 beautiful short haired wigs. I got enough courage to say “they both looked great on you”. This brought tears to her eyes... OMG!! Emotion... Now I was doomed... Strangers crying always make me uncomfortable. How do you comfort someone you don’t know? Do they want a hug? Do they even want you to see that their eyes are ready to over flow with tears? This was just great I said to myself. I was making this woman cry. What a jerk I am. So I turned my head and stared at myself in the small mirror provided as the guy doing my hair pretended to be busy fixing the extensions. The female merchant asked if the lady wanted them both. In which the lady said she could only afford one and she just couldn’t decide between the two. Guilt over whelmed me once again. I was flooded with thinking here I am sitting in the chair getting my extensions fixed because I am so damn vain and this woman who was sitting close by, was losing her hair from the chemo she had to take. A woman, who wasn’t in the shop out of vanity, wasn’t trying to make herself beautiful because our society says woman should look great all the time and spend thousands of dollars for vanity. She also wasn’t there because she wanted to be. She was there because she had cancer and the cancer was taking away her hair. She could only afford one wig. One wig that if she decided one morning she wanted to do something different she couldn’t because as we all know Wigs are one style per wig.
At this point I had an idea... Yes, anyone who knows me sometimes it is best if I don't get ideas casue they tend to be the wrong ideas, but this idea was the best I had at the moment. So I went for it. The guy who was doing my hair was done and it was time for me to pay. As he was putting away his supplied I walked over to the lady and said which wig do you like the best. She again stated she liked them both. I told her them to pick one that was the higher price cause it would be free for her today. At first she didn’t seem to understand what I was saying. After a few seconds she completely understood what I meant and tears started to form in her eyes and she tried to protest. But I told her that it was Almost Christmas and no one should be sad at a Christmas and if she wanted both wigs then she would have both wigs. She grabbed my arm and pulled me towards her to hug me. Tears in my eyes started to form and I knew I had to get out of there before we both stood there crying like newborn babies. I gave her a quick hug and as I started to pull away she said “I don’t even know your name” I said “it doesn’t matter who I am” in reply she said “please what is your name.” After what seemed like eternity I said “Melanie” and pulled myself out of her embrace and walked over to the register where my hair guy was standing. I told him to put the price of the more expensive wig on my bill. He looked at me like I was crazy. Maybe I was but the guilt, not the feeling of being sorry for her, was stronger than anything I had felt in a long time.
Now do not think for one minute that lady was making me feel guilty. I was making myself feel that way all alone. This woman wasn’t asking for charity from strangers. This woman wasn’t asking for anything but her cancer to be cured and her own natural hair to stay where it was. She was dealing with something all woman are afraid of Cancer and the loss of her hair. To a woman the hair is the most important thing people will see. We go to great lengths to make sure our hair looks great. Women spend thousands of dollars on their hair a year. I know some woman that refuse to go to the doctor’s without fixing their hair beforehand. To lose it was and is traumatic for most woman in our society. This particular woman was not given a decision it was happening to her without consent. So yes, Guilt made me do something in which others would say was a nice thing. Being completely honest I did what I did to eliminate the guilt I was feeling. I didn’t do it for her but for me. Selfish? Maybe so but isn’t anything nice done because one feels pangs of guilt? Doesn’t one give to the Salvation Army’s Christmas fund at malls and shopping centers because somewhere deep inside they feel guilty for all the people who are homeless, abused, or just so the less fortunate families can enjoy a meal too. Do we not give to the less fortunate because we feel guilty that they are not as successful as we are? Somewhere inside by giving we feel better for it. It absolves us from guilt most of the times. If they are honest they will say yes.
I paid the bill and walked out as fast as my legs could carry me before the tears in my eyes that threatened to over flow, dumped their load and brought my soul to its knees. It was Christmas and everyone deserved to be happy even if it was for a brief moment. It is now February 2009 and I still think of that lady in the shop and hope with all that is in me that she survived her Cancer. I hope she had a wonderful Christmas. I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas.
"...I won't let it happen. I won't... I won't let this world exist without me!"
Well anyways let me tell you my Hair Experience. So as you know I got hair extensions.... Again.... yaaaa Me... A couple of weeks later I was back at the shop for maintenance. (Wow sounds like I was taking my car in for a check up rather than just getting my hair done) As I sat in the chair as people in the mall walked by getting my hair done an Older woman came in. She was wearing a toque and was looking at all the wigs in the small shop. I watched her since I had nothing better to do while she asked about this wig and that wig. Each time looking nervous and scared, scare of what? I had no idea. After about 10 mins., she told the guy who was doing my hair that she would be back ,she was going to get her hair shaved off. SHAVED OFF... OMG... I thought... Did she not know that she didn’t have to shave off all her hair to wear a wig? I mean she did have short hair as it was from what I could see from what was sticking out from under her toque, but hey, each to their own as the saying goes.
After she left the guy who was doing my hair said quietly that she had the big C. The big C!! OMG she had Cancer. Well to me the big C means Cancer, at least which that is how everyone says Cancer when they really do not want to say Cancer out loud, in case that by just saying it would mean your next in line to get it. Like someone is just walking around with a bag of Cancer and if they hear you say it they pull out the cancer and hand it to you...like playing tag and your it.... We as any human who has any sort of conscience I said “OMG, that poor woman” and immediately felt bad and guilty. Guilt? What really did I have to feel guilty about? Not like I had the Cancer bag and handed it to her. But guilt is something strongly intertwined into my system... so yes! Guilt is what I felt.
So as I sat there drowning in my guilt the lady came back to the store. I couldn’t even look her in the eye. I felt so bad, I was afraid she could tell I felt sorry for her, like it was written on my forehead in a big black marker. People with Cancer don’t want strangers feeling sorry for them. They don’t want to be treated different. They have cancer not a third eye. I am sure even if they had a third eye and cancer they would not want anyone feeling bad for them. They have a hard enough time dealing with the drugs they may be taking, chemo, the fear that they will die from their cancer, the tests they have to go through daily, weekly or monthly. The last thing anyone wants to see is pity in the eyes of a stranger. So I sat there trying to pretend I didn’t know about her cancer from the guy who was doing my hair.
She hadn’t shaved off all her hair as she had told the guy doing my hair. From the sideways glances I was giving her I could clearly see she still had some peeking out from under her toque. But she was back in the shop looking at a few wigs. The other shop keeper asked her if she wanted to try any one. She did and after 15 mins., she had narrowed her choice down to 2 beautiful short haired wigs. I got enough courage to say “they both looked great on you”. This brought tears to her eyes... OMG!! Emotion... Now I was doomed... Strangers crying always make me uncomfortable. How do you comfort someone you don’t know? Do they want a hug? Do they even want you to see that their eyes are ready to over flow with tears? This was just great I said to myself. I was making this woman cry. What a jerk I am. So I turned my head and stared at myself in the small mirror provided as the guy doing my hair pretended to be busy fixing the extensions. The female merchant asked if the lady wanted them both. In which the lady said she could only afford one and she just couldn’t decide between the two. Guilt over whelmed me once again. I was flooded with thinking here I am sitting in the chair getting my extensions fixed because I am so damn vain and this woman who was sitting close by, was losing her hair from the chemo she had to take. A woman, who wasn’t in the shop out of vanity, wasn’t trying to make herself beautiful because our society says woman should look great all the time and spend thousands of dollars for vanity. She also wasn’t there because she wanted to be. She was there because she had cancer and the cancer was taking away her hair. She could only afford one wig. One wig that if she decided one morning she wanted to do something different she couldn’t because as we all know Wigs are one style per wig.
At this point I had an idea... Yes, anyone who knows me sometimes it is best if I don't get ideas casue they tend to be the wrong ideas, but this idea was the best I had at the moment. So I went for it. The guy who was doing my hair was done and it was time for me to pay. As he was putting away his supplied I walked over to the lady and said which wig do you like the best. She again stated she liked them both. I told her them to pick one that was the higher price cause it would be free for her today. At first she didn’t seem to understand what I was saying. After a few seconds she completely understood what I meant and tears started to form in her eyes and she tried to protest. But I told her that it was Almost Christmas and no one should be sad at a Christmas and if she wanted both wigs then she would have both wigs. She grabbed my arm and pulled me towards her to hug me. Tears in my eyes started to form and I knew I had to get out of there before we both stood there crying like newborn babies. I gave her a quick hug and as I started to pull away she said “I don’t even know your name” I said “it doesn’t matter who I am” in reply she said “please what is your name.” After what seemed like eternity I said “Melanie” and pulled myself out of her embrace and walked over to the register where my hair guy was standing. I told him to put the price of the more expensive wig on my bill. He looked at me like I was crazy. Maybe I was but the guilt, not the feeling of being sorry for her, was stronger than anything I had felt in a long time.
Now do not think for one minute that lady was making me feel guilty. I was making myself feel that way all alone. This woman wasn’t asking for charity from strangers. This woman wasn’t asking for anything but her cancer to be cured and her own natural hair to stay where it was. She was dealing with something all woman are afraid of Cancer and the loss of her hair. To a woman the hair is the most important thing people will see. We go to great lengths to make sure our hair looks great. Women spend thousands of dollars on their hair a year. I know some woman that refuse to go to the doctor’s without fixing their hair beforehand. To lose it was and is traumatic for most woman in our society. This particular woman was not given a decision it was happening to her without consent. So yes, Guilt made me do something in which others would say was a nice thing. Being completely honest I did what I did to eliminate the guilt I was feeling. I didn’t do it for her but for me. Selfish? Maybe so but isn’t anything nice done because one feels pangs of guilt? Doesn’t one give to the Salvation Army’s Christmas fund at malls and shopping centers because somewhere deep inside they feel guilty for all the people who are homeless, abused, or just so the less fortunate families can enjoy a meal too. Do we not give to the less fortunate because we feel guilty that they are not as successful as we are? Somewhere inside by giving we feel better for it. It absolves us from guilt most of the times. If they are honest they will say yes.
I paid the bill and walked out as fast as my legs could carry me before the tears in my eyes that threatened to over flow, dumped their load and brought my soul to its knees. It was Christmas and everyone deserved to be happy even if it was for a brief moment. It is now February 2009 and I still think of that lady in the shop and hope with all that is in me that she survived her Cancer. I hope she had a wonderful Christmas. I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas.
"...I won't let it happen. I won't... I won't let this world exist without me!"
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